I wish, more than anything that I was/could become a morning person. But ... let's face it, I am not and don't think it will be easy. Mondays are the worst. I hit snooze at least 5 times plus more. So, this morning I treated myself to a large coffee. Now, kicking it off further with some Jimmy Eat World. Ah, maybe Monday isn't so bad. Moving on ... I had a pretty great weekend. Nothing too crazy, just overall good. Had brunch, watched a movie, went to the MOMA. Just really ... nice. I had a great conversation with someone who has quite honestly become one of my best friends, not just in NYC but in life. We talked about the importance of friends and life changes as well. It made me do some thinking and she said "can't wait to read about this in your blog," so here it is.
As I have gotten older, grew up, changed ... so have my friendships. Fortunately and unfortunately friendships are not just given. You have to seek out, earn, invest, and grow them. Some really take off and some fade out. The ones that truly succeed are typically not without being given time, compassion, understanding and lots and lots of laughs.
Not all friendships can be saved. Sadly, people come into our lives and leave as well. With change, this is inevitable. Everyone grows, changes, and it is necessary in life. Some people and relationships don't make it longterm and some people are lucky enough to have lifelong friends that, even though you both grow, you are still interested in the same things and have thnigs in common. You don't typically have the same friends in your teens as you will in your mid-20's. Talking on the phone and going to parties is no longer of interest. Personally, I love a good night in, a yummy dinner and flats to heels.
So, build relationships and cherish them but remember people do change and we all grow up. You might not always fit together. Don't force it and don't waste time with people who aren't important to you.
I believe you know this but I feel like making sure you do :) : you are one of my most cherished friendships ever and I always feel like we can pick up where we left off and we do, which is wonderful. You are part of so many of my memories from such a young age and growing up and I'm thankful for it. While we don't talk daily, weekly, or even monthly, you are there in my mind as one of the greatest friends I've ever made. Great work with the blog, love it and you my poodle <3
ReplyDeleteWhile I am not surprised to see you write this, it got me a little teary, I must admit. Once in a while you get this need to reunite with certain people. I read YOUR blog all the time and feel like I still know you. I miss the days of shenanigans. We always had such a great time together, that I do remember. It was never difficult or dramatic ... such an ease about our friendship. There has been chat about a HS reunion and while that doesn't so much interest me, there are definitely people I would like to catch up with. You are certainly one of them. Miss you so much Meggie :) I hope our paths cross again - in person! P.S. YOUR blog is way better than mine - that of a true professional. xo
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