Monday, September 22, 2014

HeForShe - What is Feminism?

Allow me to kick off with a definition. 

[Feminism] The belief that women are and should be treated as potential intellectual equals and social equals to men. These people can be either male or female human beings, although the ideology is commonly (and perhaps falsely) associated mainly with women.

The basic idea of feminism revolves around the principle that just because human bodies are designed to perform certain procreative functions, biological elements need not dictate intellectual and social functions, capabilities, and rights

Feminism also, by its nature, embraces the belief that all people are entitled to freedom and liberty within reason - including equal civil rights--and that discrimination should not be made based on gender, sexual orientation, skin color, ethnicity, religion, culture, or lifestyle.

In the simply amazing video, Emma Watson talks about Feminism. What does it REALLY mean, who does it matter to, what do we do? She also launches the HeForShe campaign to women and men. Her speech is simply beautiful and though provoking. She is a young 24 years old and beyond her years in wisdom. It was ... moving.

She down right nails the definition of Feminism. A known word, yes, but a word confused for it's true meaning. One of the highlights in her speech was the comment below.

"I decided that I was a feminist. This seemed uncomplicated to me. My recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word. Women are choosing not to identify as feminists. Apparently, I am among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating and anti-men."

I couldn't agree more with comments throughout her speech.

Bossy ... When a little boy, young man or even adult male is assertive - he is known as a leader. When a little girl, teen girl, or even adult woman does, she is known as being bossy. 
ds like bossy send a message: don't raise your hand or speak up.Those words, "bossy" send strong messages - don't raise your hand, don't speak up. 

Work pay ... since when should women not get equal pay as male counterparts? Take a male and a female both applying for the same job. Both male/female went to honrable colleges, have previous work experience. Is it really fair if the male counterpart were to get offered more?

Decisions ... I can actually tell you a time where this almost affected me. When I lived in Virginia, there was a lot of debate about allowing contraception to be available anymore. Along the "Personhood Amendment." You have to be absolutely crazy if I am going to let someone (in this case, a male governor candidate) to tell me what I can and can't take. This is my body and I will do as I please. That decision, should be a woman's decision and right. No one else's to take away.

Regardless, I think this new campaign #HeForShe is amazing & brilliant. Go on, guys ... Show your love for women :)

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

What Would I Tell My 16 Year Old Self aka My 16 YR Old Sister ... (inspiration provided by Hello Giggles today)

It has been sometime since I have written. Summer ended up being busier than expected, but overall so amazing. I was able to take a real (relaxing) vacation and had a number of friends come to visit. I still have some visitors trickling in. I couldn't be more happy.

September marked my one year mark as a New Yorker. I still can't believe it has been a year. Wow! There isn't a day that goes by that I don't experience something new or a weekend when I don't visit a new place. I love this city. Could I live here forever? Probably not. But for now, I am certainly content ... more like happy, really happy.

I was homesick recently. It has been so long since I have been homesick. I haven't lived in my hometown for 5 1/2 years now. I guess there are just times I miss seeing my neices grow up and giving my little (not so little) sister advice when I see her doing something silly. It's not so much the place I miss, but my family.

Speaking of family ... I read a great article on Hello Giggles this week by a reader about what they would tell their 16 year old self. I started to think, "what would I tell my 16 year old self?" Then, I said, "what would I tell my 16 year old sister?" I don't live with her so I can't nearly be as annoying as I wish to be. She is in that "I am cool" phase and would rather not talk to me, so we don't talk often. Hey, I totally get it. Social is more important that family at that age. No blame ... I was once 16. (Many years ago!) So, here is my advice to my 16year old self or really, my 16 year old sister ...


  • Fall in love, but don't think it's the end of the world if it doesn't work out. He may be the first, but he won't be the last. He is just a stepping stone to the next.
  • Friends are MORE important that boys. Yep, I said it. Even though you may love him, just know that your friends will always be there and boys come and go. Take it from someone who is 13 years older than you.
  • Don't be negative so often. As you grow up, you will realize that things in your life really aren't that bad. Turn a bad situation good, look at it in a positive light. For god sakes, you are 16 years old and in high school. The hardest things you have to worry about are grades. Can I go back to being 16?
  • Stand up for yourself. Don't let people bully you. But do not bully other people. You will feel like a horrible person in a few years if you are. Be kind and people will usually be kind back.
  • School matters. Grades, getting up early, teachers, assignments - seriously? It is so much, right? It totally matters. In two years it will get you into college and then get you a good job. Make this a main focus. I can guarantee you will regret it if you don't
  • Don't DO drama. I know this one is hard. I specifically remember a few friends in high school that were almost drama free if you can believe it. I admire that. They were so care free. I look back and ask myself why I put myself in stupid situations and stupid fights. Why I hung around in certain crowds and participated in petty drama. It wasn't worth it. 
  • Make good friends. I can't tell you that I am friends with every friend that I had in HS, but there are a handful that I keep in touch with still and it is an amazing thing. Make lasting friendships and appreciate them.
  • Laugh a lot. Be silly, spontaneous, do random things. Don't be so serious all the time.
  • Be independent. If moving from state to state has taught me one thing, that is independence. It is wonderful having friends, family and a loved one. BUT, make sure you can do things on your own and for yourself.
  • Get a job. Start making that moolah early on in life and build an appreciation for what it is like to work, pay for things, etc.
  • Show emotion. Cry, laugh, scream, yell. All of the above. Voice your opinions and listen when others do the same.
  • Be proud of who you are and who you are growing to be. YOU are an amazing person.
  • Have a bump? Make a mistake? Doing something stupid? It IS okay. You are still young. You will recover. Just shake it off. :)
  • Ya better work! I mean work out. If there is one thing I have learned, that I could have told my younger self is too work out/stay fit earlier in life. Eat well, treat your body RIGHT. 

Monday, July 21, 2014

Monday Fun with Blogmopolitan Quiz by Two Thirds Hazel

Making Monday fun with a Blogmopolitan Quiz by Two Thirds Hazel. Go on ... take it and link up! Enioy and Happy Monday!



Monday, July 14, 2014

I've Been Enjoying ... Life

My oh my has it been awhile. I could say I haven't felt inspired to write lately, but the truth is. I have been busy living. Yes, living. Stay with me on this post, there is a lot to catch up on!

Someone recently said that I am an overly positive person. I won't disagree. I think that opportunities I have have and challenges I have overcome make me grateful. I tend to see the good in most things. I have to say that this, in fact, has made me consider deleting my Facebook account. Social media has become such an outlet for so much whining, complaining and overall negativity. I then find myself complaining about how much people complain. I truly use that network to keep in touch with friends and family. I live so far away from my dearest friends and family that I love to use it in such a way to keep them informed on life. It is not easy to pick up the phone all the time - life gets ... busy. So, the internal debate begins. Do I or don't I?

On to the next (to quote Jay Z). Summer. Summer has been pretty awesome. It is HOT in NYC in the Summer. I mean, Florida is bad, but at least there is the breeze from the ocean in Vero Beach. I miss that. Regardless, it has still been pretty good. I went to Governor Ball with some friends and really let loose. We drank lots, chalked our hair, wore hippie clothing, listened to loud music and ate really amazing food. I felt like I was 21 again and loved every second.

I was even lucky enough to get to see one of my closest friends for just a few hours. I got to hang out with her and her baby. Really, not so baby anymore! I truly love times like those. I wish we were able to spend more time together, but I certainly am able to appreciate the short time we had. I know there will be lots more visits in the future.

Soccer in the city has been fun. I won't lie and say I LOVE soccer, because I don't. But I have enjoyed the World Cup. Such intensity and dedication. It is awesome to watch all the countries playing.

I got to experience my first July 4th in the city. It was pretty uneventful. Sam and I took a day off together and went to Aire Ancient Bathhouse. If you are ever in NYC this is a local MUST. I mean, wow. I have never in my life been more relaxed. This was also round 2 for me. It is totally worth it. Oh, and the RHONY go there, so maybe I am hoping to run into one. Ha!

July and August are busy but at the end of August, for 9 blissful days I will be on vacation. Nowhere special, but I am thrilled. Some friends and I rented a house on the beach in Rhode Island. I need a Digital Detox like nobody's business. Until then, it is on the road to meetings in Boston, Philadelphia, Pittsburgh and then a long weekend away in Savannah. My best friend from college days is driving up to meet me for the weekend. I literally CANNOT wait. Did you know it is legal to drink on the streets. Now I just need a wine glass that hangs around my neck. Class at it's finest. Bring it on.

Ah, another big one. 43829.1 Hours, 1826.21 Days, 260.887 Weeks, or 60 Months. It has been 5 years for Sammy and I. 

Contrary to the brilliant yet sad musical, our Last Five Years have been preeety amazing. I love that amazing guy I call my significant other. I am not always easy to live with - I am anal OCD clean. I get crazy when I feel out of control.
  • 2 big cross-state moves
  • 3 apartments
  • 2 sold cars
  • 23 states visited
  • Countless winery tours
  • 1 haunted town tour
  • Sleepless nights (thanks to HIS snoring)
  • Hours & hours spent watching ... House of Cards, Game of Thrones and Shark Tank
  • So many delicious dinners
  • 3 animals purchased
  • So many concerts
  • Scrabble battles, like WOAH
  • Handgliding adventures
Anyway, I like him alot. It is funny though ... a coworker had asked how long we had been together and I told them. The amount of shock and awe I get is always mixed. The first question is usually, why aren't you engaged/married. I just love him and that's enough. There is no pressure and I quite honestly like it that way. I get that isn't for everyone. You should never judge a person for their relationship. They all work in different ways and I choose to go with the flow. :)

Well, this has been a log catch up. I feel accomplished. Now to go watch/play with my very new, very whiney kittens. Wish me luck. 

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Oh my, how time flies

Can anyone say slacker? I haven't blogged in a hot minute. Not for the lack of wanting to. I have been on the road for a mix of business and pleasure for the past two weeks. 

I started in Beacon, NY for a little camping trip with Sammy. This was a trip really for him. I got him a little special trip to hang gliding. It was simply amazing. Video below!

From Beacon I was off to Boston to do some digital downloading with the hotels in that city. It was a productive couple of days and AHH-mazing weather.

I brought that weather down with me on my extended 4 day weekend to Florida (Orlando+Vero+Miami). I spent some quality girl time with my college friend, Vicky. I also caught up on some much needed R&R and somewhat of a tan. Since moving to the NE I have lost my natural Florida glow and my body only sees the sun a few months out of the year. Womp womp. That being said, I applied 75 sunblock countless times during my Miami trip. Nobody wants vacay to be ruined by a BAD sunburn.

Next, I took off to Pittsburgh to see the newest, latest and greatest hotel to be added to the Kimpton portfolio. So excited to add another hotel to my region and a new city! The City of Bridges or Steel (whichever you prefer) is pretty awesome. Lots of history, architechture and hundreds of bridges. I could go on with my dorky facts, but I will spare you!

Finally back in NYC and it is hot! Remember when I was begging for Spring? Well, apparentely that does happen here. Now comes the days of 75+ weather and wonderful humidity - goodbye beautiful hair days.

The next few weeks brings lots of fun. This weekend I am attending Governors Ball in Randalls Island (NYC). It is basically a Coachella ... but not in California and maybe not as cool. My friend and I are going full out. It is a great chance to really dress outside the box. So, we are going full on with our festival attire. You know, normal stuff ... chalking of our hair, flowy tops, jean shorts, hats. Can't wait to tell you all about it!








Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Music that Speaks

Do you ever find a song and instantly fall in love with it? It is the beat, the melody, the singer ... the lyrics. I fall for song with lyrics that speak to me.

I just came across "Scare Away the Dark" by Passsenger. I am not sure there could be a better song that I relate to now. His voice is so hypnotic.



Take a listen. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZnlswPwKqlw

Now, let's talk lyrics and what this songs means to me. It says to be you, do you, be happy. Don't for a minute take a day for granted, make every moment count. Don't waste away your weekends - celebrate them. Work hard, play hard. Show all of your emotions withour fear. Don't be afraid to dream. We all wish we were something else (skinnier, smarter, etc) but at the end of the day, accept yourself. I appreciate the social media plug for what it is. Don't forget to be real, communicate. Real life happens in the present.

So I will end with my favorite bit ...
Well, sing, sing at the top of your voice,
Love without fear in your heart.
Feel, feel like you still have a choice
If we all light up we can scare away the dark

Thursday, May 15, 2014

Friends Make Life Worth Everything

Your life is big. Keep reaching.
- Oprah Winfrey aka my Starbucks cup quote

I read a blog post this morning that felt like I wrote it, or perhaps was so good, I wish I wrote it! This blogger nailed the signs of real friendship.

Just read it ...

This Is What Real Friendship Looks Like  http://wp.me/p3w24p-t0 via @katielouisepow

After reading this, I was smiling. I am so lucky to have some truly awesome friends in my life.

Friends close and friends really far away. Friends that build me up in every way possible and friends who give me that reality check I needed. Friends who are honest to a "t" and I love them for that. Friends I live vicariously through. Others that I skype with and don't see nearly enough. Friends that I have grown apart from and am desperately trying to hold onto the relationship that I knew. 

But, most of all, I have found a core group of girls, most of them not even in the same city, who I love absolutely. I know if I am having a bad day or just need to tell them something funny, they are only a text or phone call away.

So, this is just a quick "thank you" to my friends. I don't always do a great job of communicating and constantly keeping in touch, but you are always in my mind. 


  1. Can pick up where we left off no matter how long we go without talking? Krista S
  2. Best entertainer: Christina H 
  3. Share a bottle of wine and trashy tv; Meghan R
  4. Finds a secual innuendo even if there is not one there: Victoria M
  5. Knows me the best: Sam
  6. Greatest childhood memories with: Jessica C
  7. Most creative style and writing: Megan H
  8. Healthiest: Shannon
  9. Most motivated: 
  10. Guaranteed for a laugh: Dan
  11. Career driven:  Lily M
  12. Biggest change: Jessica C
  13. Sarcastic: Karen
  14. Most sincere: Kristin